Ego And Love Cannot Co-exist
They are like light and darkness; when light comes, darkness disappears. If you love yourself you will be surprised: self-love means the self disappears. In self-love there is no self ever found. That is the paradox: self-love is utterly selfless. It is not selfish because whenever there is light there is no darkness, and whenever there is love there is no self.
Love melts the frozen self. The self is like an ice cube, love is like the morning sun. The warmth of love...and the self starts melting. The more you love yourself the less you will find of the self in you, and then it becomes a great meditation, a great leap into godliness. And you know it!
You may not know it as far as self-love is concerned because you have not loved yourself, but you have loved other people; glimpses of it must have happened to you. There must have been rare moments when for a moment, suddenly you were not there and only love was there, only love energy flowing, from no center, from nowhere to nowhere. When two lovers are sitting together there are two nothingnesses sitting together, two zeros sitting together – and that is the beauty of love, that it makes you utterly empty of the self.
Remember again: Empty yourself! Pour yourself into love so that in your inner world space is created. Godliness can enter only when there is space in you to contain it. And great space will be needed because you are inviting the greatest guest. You are inviting the whole existence into you. You will need infinite nothingness in you.
Love is the best way to become nothing.
(Source Unknown)
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Very nice post. Although, there is a difference between "Self-love" and "self-love" that the author of this article seems to have confused. :-)
All the descriptions and effects of love described are accurate for love between two selves. When one self falls in love with another, the former humbles itself and with time completely annihilates itself until only the beloved remains.
What the author has described cannot be true if one is in love with one's own self, because that would only lead to self-indulgence.
However, it would all make sense if the "self" in question was the Divine Self, which one recognises within one's being.
Hamza I think the very first paragraph addresses the issue, no? :)
Actually, the first paragraph is what contradicts the rest of the article.
The effects described in the first para are all true for love between two distinct selves, where one revolves around, and caters to, the other.
As I said, when we fall in love with our own self, we become self-indulgent, which completely prevents annihilation of the self.
When we love ourselves, completely, we do not need to be self-indulgent. We have risen above such vices and do not need to be self-indulgent to feel the significance of our existence. We just love ourselves and the insecurities disappear. We give freely and we do not need to take because we've achieved a self-salvation of sorts.
Of course, this is a much too ideal picture. It is hard for anyone to love themselves so much.
@Aneesha. You said:
"When we love ourselves, completely, we do not need to be self-indulgent"
On the contrary, if we love our own selves so much, then we will sacrifice everything for our own sake.
Here's something else to think about. If I love someone and someone insults my beloved, I will naturally be angered. What if I am my own beloved? My anger will be because of a personal insult directed at me.
This proves that love of one's own self makes us sink, rather than rise.
I disagree, Hamza. That is what the article is trying to contrast; the difference between ego and love!
But that is the error right there. Love of the self bloats the ego, because it is the self/ego which is pampered in self-love.
Compare that with Self-love, where love is focused on the Divine Self which we recognise within our own selves.
It's a subtle difference, but it makes all the difference. :-)
@Hamza
If that is your understanding of love, all I would say is, you are yet to stumble upon love, as it really is. Enough said.
i wish i could say all that i wish to say on love...
but it's pointless... it's ineffible.. and if i try to talk about it, it will reveal too much...
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